Whenever a new member joins a group, we do what the kids call the NOOB game. In this game, they are given a set amount of time to figure out a fixed number (usually their age) of things they have in common. These commonalties cannot be what I call “no duhs” — they have hair, they are boys, they have feet, etc. Today, the boys eagerly requested the NUBE game with the addition of Vic.
The game usually begins with pizza, video games, ice cream, and Star Wars. Until today. “Do we all have diagnoses of Asperger’s, autism, or AD/HD or something like that?” asked Trevor. “Asperger’s”. “Bi-polar Disorder.” “Not me. I used to have autism, but not any more.” Trevor said, “Wait, dude, if you have autism, you have it forever.”
I can honestly say that this topic has never come up in group, which, now that I think about it, is somewhat surprising. Most days, no stone goes unturned. I was caught off-guard today and I know that I didn’t do the topic justice. In fact, we didn’t “do” the topic at all. Both boys were adamant that they were correct — Trevor that autism is forever, and John that he “used to”. They didn’t argue, rather they just shutdown. So, we moved on.
The question that remains for me: How do I reconcile this contradiction for Trevor and John and the others?